Guys! Planning A Wedding Isn’t Just For Her
10 Reasons And Ways For Guys To Help With Wedding Planning
Guys, while your bride-to-be is likely to take the lead on planning your wedding, she can’t do it without you. Here are some of the best ways you can help make your big day special and take a little pressure off of your lady.
1) Show her you care
She is going to ask you for your opinion, the worst thing you can say is “I don’t know” or worse still “I don’t care”! If she says “do you like the periwinkle or the spring green better,” it might actually be because she can’t decide (she probably likes them both). Give her a straight answer, or if you don’t have a preference at least say something like “great question honey, let me think about it for a minute”, but make sure you answer.
2) Bond as a couple
You’re going to spend the rest of your lives making decisions together, it’s good practice to start now. Besides, if you can’t plan a wedding together, how are you going to live with each other for the rest of your lives?
3) Go with her on vendor visits
Some of these can be boring, while many are actually enjoyable, but see numbers one and two for why it’s important for you to be there. Even if you don’t know the difference between a lily and a daisy, just being there for support is a great start. This also helps you get insights into her decision making process that can help towards building a strong relationship moving forward. Plus, free food samples from caterers really hit the spot.
4) Communicate with her mother-in-law-to-be
(Yes, that’s your mom) Mothers get very excited when it comes to their children getting married, and chances are this will stress out your fiance. She’s probably already got her hands full with her mom, so keeping your mom under control shouldn’t be her job. Your mom is going to want to help out, so sit down with your bride-to-be and come up with some things that your mom can help with and then give her small and specific projects that she can report back to you on.
5) Help with the guest list
It is going to take both of you to come up with the perfect balance of exactly who to invite and how many people total. She probably doesn’t know your Dad’s Lawyer buddy who took you fishing for the first time when you were 5. Work with your family to gather all of the necessary addresses so your sweetheart will have them all together when it’s time to send out the invites.
No, I don’t mean you should run to pinterest and start browsing all of the wedding ideas (she’s probably already done that anyway). At some point in this process she is going to get a little burnt out and it’s great if you can be there to give her a few sparks of creative energy. Think about weddings you’ve been to in the past, or even something cool you saw on your way home from work last week that wasn’t at all wedding related, but that you could adapt in a new and interesting way to help make your wedding your own. Write your ideas down and save them for just the right time when she needs a little boost.
7) The Ceremony
Your wedding ceremony should mean as much to you as it does to her. Consider which important people in your lives to have do readings. Choose your vows together, are you going to write your own? Are you going to keep them a secret from each other until the day of? My wife and I composed our own vows together from a combination of several different vows we liked. Don’t forget about ceremony music, who will be your officiant, and if you want to do any sort of symbolism ceremony such as candles or sand.
8) Budgeting and finances
I don’t know about your bride-to-be, but my wife isn’t always the best with numbers. She relied on me to keep an eye on the big picture of how much we were spending on our wedding to make sure we stayed within our budget and left room for last minute additions or unexpected costs.
9) The Honeymoon
The honeymoon should be a time for both of you to relax and enjoy each other’s company, but it should also be a dream vacation for both of you. If she wants to go lounge on a beach and you want to go on an African Safari, maybe you can find a way to work both of those in. A better option might be to leave those for another time and find a different trip that suits both of you. The most important thing to remember is that the honeymoon should be something you both look back on fondly, so make it something special for both of you.
10) Free Cake
Did I mention there’s free cake involved? If none of these other reasons get your fire lit to help out with some planning, most bakeries happily give samples to help you decide on your favorite styles for your wedding cake.
So, there you have it! Even if you couldn’t care less about what the invitations look like, or if the linens are white or cream, planning a wedding can actually be fun, and your special someone needs your help whether you know it or not.